I love my friends.
I don’t have many, but the ones I have are very awesome ones.
I’m not talking about “acquaintances”, I’ve got tons of “acquaintances”. But if I asked any of these acquaintances for a ride to the airport or a kidney, they’d think I’m delusional.
For someone without parents or very much family, I truly value my friends. I never like to label myself as an expert of anything, but I think I’ve got a master’s degree in the qualities that make an awesome friend.
So I thought I’d share some:
1) Never Judge You For Your Dietary Choices
A true friend won’t tell you how your vegan, gluten free, or ultra deep fried entree is a horrible choice.
I think in general, people need to stop talking about their food choices and friendships should never center around it. Your friends SHOULD be concerned for your well being (ie, not support you starve or harm your health), but an awesome friend will not love you any less for deep-throating a chocolate pudding cup at 2am or for drinking kale.
2) They Let You Make Mistakes
You might date someone you friend hates, but a good friend won’t abandon you for it.
Maybe you friend will think your significant other is “all wrong” but they’ll let you make those mistakes (if they are even “mistakes”). And if it does end up being a mistake, they’ll be right there with a box of tissues, Netflix, and Cheetos to mend your broken heart.
2) Be Genuinely Happy For Your Success
They may be a teeny bit jealous, but they will never show it. None of that fake smiles and insincere comments. They will be genuinely be happy and proud that you’ve done something awesome. They may even inspire you and you’ll love them so much more for it.
They will brag about you and say,
“Yep, that’s my friend. I knew her first!”
4) They Believe in The Strength of Your Friendship
You can go days, weeks, and even months without seeing or talking to each other regularly.
But like family, a really awesome friend won’t have any doubts if the friendship is still intact. You both understand life can get in the way of hanging out together, but life won’t get in the way of the friendship.
5) They Will Be Uncomfortable For You
They will sit in traffic or even hop on a plane to enjoy your company. They know a few hours of slight misery is worth your presence.
A dialog in their head might sound like this:
“My friend wants to meet up today. I have to wake up super early tomorrow, I’ll have to drive to the other side of the city, in rush-hour traffic, in the heat of my car that lacks proper air-conditioning but you know what, I’ll make this work.”
They’ll do that cause they think you’re awesome and in-turn, that makes your friend really, really awesome.