The Perks Of Living Alone

by Eden on June 4, 2012

Living in the house I grew up in without my parents is kinda strange.

I’m beyond thankful I even have a house and thankful I have a puppy to keep my company, but this is indeed the first time I’m living “alone”. I’ve had roommates throughout my life and for the first time ever, I don’t need to keep the house a certain way for anybody.

Not a roommate, or parents, or landlords, nobody!

I don’t plan to move, but I do plan on redecorating a little bit. I keep wanting to “ask my dad” if I can paint a certain area or whatever, but then I realize I don’t really have anybody to ask permission anymore. In some ways it a perk, but in my situation, its kinda sad.

But I’m sick of being sad.

So lets count the awesome things about living by myself (plus Lolli):

1) There’s No Fashion Police

I can wear whatever the fuck I want!

Sweatpants, Uggs, garder-belts, Snuggies, leotards, hammer pants, overalls, or nothing at all!  You can’t do that with a roommate or a boyfriend around (especially hammer pants!) without them thinking you’re a weirdo. Its a special kind of luxury that I shouldn’t take for granted.

 

2) You’ll Find Yourself Hilarious

Yes my friends, this will happen.

Even if you’re incredibly unfunny and totally serious.

It often won’t even be all that funny and it’ll probably just be from a dumb thought that’ll pop up in your head. But hey, it’s amazing how hilarious you can be when no one’s watching.

 

3) You Will Have More Toilet Paper

Unless you’re wealthy (in which case, marry me), paying everything without splitting it will start to make you a little bit more concious about your wallet. But don’t fret, because you won’t need to replace toilet paper as often.

 

4) “Dessert” can be Dinner

There is no judgement if I have an ice cream sundae for dinner and I can ban brussel sprouts without any objections!

 

5) You Will Feel Less “Alone”

Ever since I moved into my dad’s house after he passed, I get a ton of calls from his friends constantly. Sometimes its nice to speak to them, sometimes its just overkill. I’ve also noticed that since living alone I’m actually scheduling more time with friends and going out. My point is, I think living alone forces me to actually be less lonely.

Lolli totally judges my eating habits :(

 

 

Now if you would excuse me, Lolli and I are gonna get into our hammer pants and tee-pee the neighbor’s house becuase we have all this extra toilet paper lying around.

That better be quilted.

 

 

Do you live alone? Have you ever? What was/is the best part about it? What did you hate about it?

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Kari @ bite-sized thoughts June 4, 2012 at 3:05 am

I spent large chunks of my childhood and adolescence, and then early adult years, longing for independence and a place of my own – not because my family was so terrible, but because I have a huge independent streak and I wanted all of the things you refer to here. When I finally did move into a place of my own, I was unexpectedly lonely, but then settled into loving it. In the end, it was only for about 18 months before my partner moved in, but they were good months, even if I love things now too. I’d say enjoy it, and definitely make the most of dessert for dinner :)

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Cammy June 4, 2012 at 3:55 am

I have never had a roommate or co-habitator since I moved out of my parent’s house (except for a few summer stints staying with family), and I fucking LOVE living alone. For everyone one of the reasons you cited and so much more.

One of the biggest pluses for me: control over your own thermostat. I like it hella-warm in my house, and I like not having to worry about someone cranking the AC up and freezing me out.

Also, I like that I don’t have to worry about someone consuming the last of my milk/cinnamon raisin bread/Ben & Jerry’s/[insert jealously guarded food here].

I also like being able to shower with the bathroom door open, so the steam doesn’t all build up and fog/dampify everything.

I could go on and on, great post topic!

Also, I’m glad that you’ve got a good support system while you’re making this transition. It has got to be a big adjustment; thinking of you.

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Eden June 4, 2012 at 5:37 am

I have a pet peeve about the shower/fog thing!

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Sara K June 4, 2012 at 4:21 am

I do live alone and I agree that by doing so I am much much more inclined to be out socializing most of the time…in fact I’d go so far to say that I am addicted to ‘socializing.’ In college I always had a room/apartment mate and I definitely was more inclined to stay in during those times and did not take my alone time for granted. While living alone has it’s perks- I can organise how I want, all the mess is mine, etc I wouldn’t mind living in a house with several house mates (so long as I had my own room)- in fact I think it would be bunches of fun

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Eden June 4, 2012 at 5:36 am

Yes, exactly! When I lived with roommates, I usually just wanted to stay home. I guess because they wanted to go out at night so I saw it as my only chance to savor my alone time at home.

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eve June 4, 2012 at 5:14 am

I loved living alone!
What I loved about living alone? Peace and quiet. Inviting people on my schedule. Not being woken up by a drunken roommate. Waking up half dressed, and staying that way for the whole morning… whatever, the whole day! Not having to clean for anyone else but myself. Taking baths, or showers with the door open so I could hear the tunes from my room, then sing out loud.
Maybe I loved living alone so much because my roommates where a little hard to live with. Or maybe I was the one who was hard to live with…?!

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Jessy (squeezetheday) June 4, 2012 at 7:14 am

I have 3 flatmates, I share a room with one of them. I would LOVE to live alone (and in a house)! Peace, going to sleep and waking up whenever I want, cleaning whenever and however I feel like it, opening the windoes without a roommate closing it 5 minutes later because she’s cold, showering with the door open, dancing around in my room … Yeah, I don’t particularly love my living situation right now. I guess it can get a little lonely if you live alone, but as long as you have friends to spend your time with, it must be awesome.

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choose carbs June 4, 2012 at 7:38 am

I’ve lived alone for 5 years and I’m actually pretty sick of it. It felt great after years of messy roommates in college but I really struggle to maintain a healthy sleep and meal schedule, especially in the two years since I quit my 9-5 and started grad school. But I think one major perk to having a house to yourself is being able to fill it with whatever you want. I think you’ve mentioned sharing an affinity for Costco with your dad and I would LOVE to be able to buy toilet paper, soap, cat food, and other non-perishables in bulk. The problem is that I don’t have space in my 1 bedroom apartment! And the only place I can keep cat food is in a big Tupperware on the top shelf in my kitchen. He’ll tear apart bags or knock things over if it’s anywhere else, including on top of the refrigerator.

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Eden June 4, 2012 at 10:20 am

This is my issue with costco as well. Where do I store that shit?! I usually actually keep it in the trunk of my car :/

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Nicole C June 4, 2012 at 8:03 am

I have never lived alone and it’s something I have always wanted to do. Oh the freedom to leave whenever, to hang out with whomever. Ben is gone away a lot and even moved to PA for a few months, a couple years ago. I was elated to have a small glimpse of what it would be like. I’m too independent sometimes.

Kronus and Roxy find me hilarious. Turn on a good song and Kronus will dance with me. Paws on my hips and all.

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Amanda June 4, 2012 at 8:33 am

I’ve never lived alone, which I find weird. I lived with my family, with roommates, and then with Andy. I think living alone is important and sort of wish I had done that.

Lolli has a bear face. I can’t even handle it. I want to snuggle her.

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Jena June 4, 2012 at 9:50 am

I’ve never lived alone. I lived w/ 2 of my sisters when I moved out of my parents, then moved in w/ my boyfriend, now Husband. I guess I sort of live alone during the week. My Husband travels for work (leaves Monday, comes home Thurs night) so i’m home alone w/ my dogs all week.. Having no one to talk to after works sucks – I get SO SICK of talking on the phone. Eating dinner alone sucks… but I do enjoy a good bowl of cereal w/o judgment. I can watch whatever I want on TV , so thats a perk.. It has its ups & downs.

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Eden June 4, 2012 at 10:19 am

You should try eating alone at a nice restaurant. I think its something everyone should do once in a while.

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Jolene (www.everydayfoodie.ca) June 4, 2012 at 10:02 am

I have never lived alone … but I wish that I had.

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Lauren June 4, 2012 at 10:07 am

I lived alone for a bit in my early 20s. I loved having everything how I wanted it, but I suppose that can make you inflexible. If you have people over to visit, there’s really no downside unless you feel you’re in constant need of companionship. Now living with my husband and two kids, I find myself wishing for their absence only to receive it and want them back home. Crap, I’ve turned co-dependent and didn’t even realize it. This blog is like therapy.

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e June 4, 2012 at 12:11 pm

I love living alone… and I do think it makes me more social. I love to be with people but sometimes its nice to have the option to shower when you want, stay up with a bowl of ice cream till 4 am with no judgement and just have some space when you need it… so yay to alone living…. !

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Lisa June 4, 2012 at 5:44 pm

I love living alone! I’ve been living alone for the past month, its definitely different. And I think I’m still feeling a bit alone, because I used to live with my parents and had 2 animals. An now I have none, I think it would be a lot better if I had an animal to care for. I lived with a roommate before and couldn’t stand it, I was such a clean freak and she was the total opposite, it drived me crazy!

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Susan June 4, 2012 at 6:26 pm

I live alone now and I love it. I wear hammer pants every night and talk to Buster in the stupidest voices. I can keep it as immaculately clean as I want to, or as messy as I want to. I find it works well for me because I usually function in two very separate states – as a social butterfly out on the town, or spending time as silent shut-in. I don’t really like mixing the two worlds and really like having no one to answer to at home. This is why I am so happily single.

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Eden June 4, 2012 at 9:02 pm

I talk to Lolli in ridiculous voices. She thinks I escaped a mental institution and that she’s my “service dog”.

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lilly June 4, 2012 at 7:24 pm

I have been living alone for almost 2 years while teaching in Korea.
The good things:
The place stays as clean / dirty as you want it. That semi-living dust bunny under the couch- I made that.
You dont have to justify your laziness to anyone- if you want to spend the day watching back to back reruns in your pj’s while eating cold food straight out of the pot its ok.

Not so good things:
The food you cook can last forever. My freezer is so jam packed with various things I have . You can tell each cooking phase I was in (Indian, Japanese, South Asian)
If you want something you have to get off your butt and get it yourself.

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Eden June 4, 2012 at 9:04 pm

Yes, I’ve been meaning to cook a bunch of stuff but I’m so effin lazy that my freezer is stocked with ground turkey and fish.

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Ameena June 4, 2012 at 7:29 pm

I’ve never lived alone…it was from my parent’s house to my college apartment (with roommates) to a condo with the hubby. I dream of peace and quiet sometimes! I guess the grass is always greener…

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Eden June 4, 2012 at 9:03 pm

No, I think my grass is for sure the greenest ;)

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Deb (SmoothieGirlEatsToo) June 4, 2012 at 9:40 pm

This is a great post. Love the last bit and hammer pants. What’s frightening is that I bought derek some rainbow hammer pants and he never wears them, what??

I spend a lot of time alone due to Derek traveling and Palm Springs. I must admit (and he knows it) that I adore spending quiet alone time. But only if the cats are there with me. If they aren’t there, i’m pretty miserable. I need to sew Ace some little matching rainbow hammer pants.

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Eden June 4, 2012 at 9:43 pm

I’m sure Derek’s Hammer pants will fit Ace.

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Gillian June 5, 2012 at 2:16 am

Nudity and unacceptable music also a bonus.

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dorit June 5, 2012 at 1:44 pm

Since I never knew if you got the messages these last months , will only say to you to do what ever you wish to , in the way you want to , try to start slowly enjoy (your) life after what you went through , but do not forget you have lots of family (uncles cousins second cousins etc.)and all of us love you. these will be the last words from me to you:bon courage , and if you ever getto France I am here , To Israel-so many of us are these,etc.

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