Mistakes My Parents Made

by Eden on April 20, 2012

Fun fact: parents aren’t perfect.

We grow up to believe they do.

However, there comes a point in life where we realize they are far from perfect and that maybe we know better than them.

My cousin from Australia came this week to visit. I haven’t seen him in a while and we got to catch up this week on the past and about my parents. All this reminising made me realize my parents did some stuff I totally hated.

I’m not gonna air out all my parent’s dirty laundry but for this flashback friday, but I thought I’d share some ways my parents pissed me off or messed up:

1) Told Me To “Stop Crying!”

Seriously, men and women need to get over it and stop seeing crying as a sign of weakness.

Dont cry, Dawson. Joey left you for Tom Cruise who's kinda weird anyhow.

My mom never had a problem with me crying, but my dad did. Not so much when I was younger, but as a young adult, my dad would get annoyed when I’d cry around him.

I guess its a macho thing. When we brought my dad home for passover a few weeks a ago, he started crying and tried to hold back the tears. Somehow, I actually didn’t cry but it felt good to see my dad finally let the flood-gates open.


2) Style

I’m no Joan Rivers or a “fashionable” by any sense of the word, but I know lack of style when I see it. And my dad lacked style.

Seriously, dad?! I realize this was the 80's but its your wedding and you had to go with a checkered gray suit?!

Sorry, dad.

I think my mom had some questionable outfits, but her style wasn’t terrible. I also gotta be lenient on her cause I only remember her from the 80’s-90’s when style in general was hilarious.


3) Snoring

When my mom was alive, we had a dog that snored too. So all together: my dad, my mom, and my dog all snored at night. It was a whole snore symphony that made me a very tired and sleep deprived kid in the morning.


4) Denial

My mother was sick for 13 years and never wrote a will/trust. My dad didn’t take care of that either.

I realize no one likes planing things that have to do with their death but my parents should have taken care of this. Anybody should whether or not they have an illness. Sure, its important to “stay positive” and all that. But you have to also be in touch with reality.


5) Passed Up Fame

I was a cute kid.

Could've been selling you mashed peas and bathing in hundred dollar bills like a baller baby should

Don’t worry, I’m not that full of myself. It deteriorated with age.

Anyhow, in LA, people “get discovered”. A few agents approached my parents. Even a rep from Gerber asked if I could be the face of baby food. Did my parents exploit me and make millions?

This could've been me!


They wanted me to make my own decisions and have me not end up like Lindsay Lohan, blah blah, blah. But I totally want do it!

However it probably sounded like baby talk and they probably just thought I was being cute when what I really meant to say was:

“YES! Exploit me! Make me the new Jody Foster”.


I know I may sound like I’m bitter with my parents, but I loved them and I really couldn’t have asked for more awesome parents. And its heartbreaking that my time with them was so limited and shorter than most people. But maybe I had a “quality over quantity” thing in my case.

So I guess I had the truffle shavings of parents.

But I’ll never forgive them for turning down Gerber.


Did you parents do things you didn’t like or didn’t agree with? Do you think you actually know better than your parents sometimes (or all the time).



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{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

Jolene (www.everydayfoodie.ca) April 21, 2012 at 9:30 am

I think occasionally I knew better than my parents … but I am thankful for a lot of things they said or did now that I am older and wiser and can look back in retrospect.


Char @ www.charskitchen.ca April 21, 2012 at 12:38 pm

omg, you were totally a Gerber baby!! I would be bitter, too. lol.

…I could list a ton of things that my parents did to piss me off, but it’ll end up being a tl;dr post for sure 😛 And in all seriousness, I do love my parents and understand that no one is perfect. I think all of us will be able to relate to this post.


Deb (SmoothieGirlEatsToo) April 21, 2012 at 2:52 pm

Really about the gerber thing? I didn’t know that!

My parents were pretty freaking awesome I must admit. The only two downsides with my mom were that I think she let me get away with too much- she should have made me do my own dishes or be more helpful around the house. I luckily learned this later, but I think I was pretty spoiled as a kid. Also, in high school I had a few big parties because I dated a party animal despite me being totally the opposite. And my mom would drink beer and smoke cigarettes in the kitchen with my friends while I was a total drip. haha. She knew how to have a good time. I was horrified :-)


Eden April 21, 2012 at 2:57 pm

You? Spoiled?! I could never tell given how helpful you are around the house (or at least when I’m with you). My mom used to smoke pot in her garden and my friends assumed it was cigarettes so I can kind of relate 😉


Jen April 23, 2012 at 6:21 am

I love my parents, but my dad is awful about the “no crying” thing too. Even when I was little, he’d snap at me, “Get a hold of yourself!” I think parents, fathers especially, kind of freak out when their kids are upset; my nieces’ temper tantrums can be scary.

That picture of Dawson always makes me laugh!


Kristy Lynn @ Gastronomical Sovereignty April 25, 2012 at 10:11 am

my parents did as good a job as they could in that moment in time… and my mom is my best friend. my dad is my dad. obviously. haha…

….i wish though that they’d encouraged our creative dreams more. i distinctly remember telling my dad i wanted to be a singer and he said outright “you need talent for that”.. i fought tooth and nail to be an actress but in a town of 2000 people, without a little help from the parents (ie driving into the city), that didn’t come to much. going to university was something they didn’t support until i graduated. and now my blog and potential writing career are nice “hobbies”.. for once, i’d like them to just say “do it”. especially when i see how they’ve supported my brother’s dreams (yet he’s a 28 year old reliant, ex-con who can’t seem to get his shit together)… jealous much?


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