For those of you unfamiliar with my history, I’ve been through some not so nice things this past year/decade/life.
Granted, I’m not a starving child in a third world country, but my path has not been easy.
I could’ve spiraled into dangerous territory (eating disorder relapse, drugs, alcohol, listening to too much Adelle, etc).
Maybe I did spiral into dangerous territory.
I started doing stand-up comedy.
Its one of the scariest things I’ve done (and I’ve done some scary shit, trust me). Putting myself in front of a bunch of people and purposefully TRYING to make them laugh. And not just once, trying to get them laugh a few times a minute.
How dare I even assume I have a sense of humor, yet alone a good one!?
Maybe its because I’ve let go of my parents to horrific diseases, maybe its because I’ve crushed my inner demons yelling me to stay emaciated, or maybe I just like making people laugh and have fun?
I don’t think any of you care, but at least for myself, I’m gonna write down how I “try” to make people laugh:
1) Honesty is the best policy.
Most of the time, comedians are saying things that are so honest, only its usually things no one would verbalize. I saw this one comedian go up to an audience member and randomly said, “your mustache is creepy”.
Yes, his mustache was especially creepy. But normally, people don’t go up to other people and tell them their REAL honest opinions about things. No one TALKS about possibly farting while getting busy in the bedroom, but it happens and if you have an immature sense of humor like me, you’ll laugh.
Or just state the obvious. Like,
“This pool is so watery”
Its not knee-slapping hilarious, but you get the idea.
2) But Also, LIE!
Lies are inherently funny because they’re a window for sarcasm (which if used properly, can be hilarious).
If someone asks what you want to be when you grow up and you say “a potato,” that’s sorta funny because it’s a complete lie (I really wanted to be unicorn).
3) The “Unexpected”
The element of surprise can be hilarious. A lot of jokes are meant to purposely misdirect you so that your assumption is shattered. Sometimes, when you tell a joke and no one laughs, its actually can end up being funny because you didn’t expect that to happen.
Like maybe just randomly saying,
“Shine bright like a potato”
(cause I bet you were thinking I’d write “shine bright like a forehead” right?)
4. There Is Humor in Pain
I think part of the reason I like doing stand up is due to my painful past. In all pain, there is humor. Most people even laugh when they see others experience pain, embarrassment, etc.
Part of the bravery that goes into being a is being OK with making fun of yourself in front of others. It totally sucks that often, other people will find your pain amusing, but it does make you kind of invincible. Who would want to hurt YOU if you’re already pointing out your flaws and laughing at yourself?
You have to get comfortable with pointing out your flaws. Even if you aren’t funny, that could be your flaw. Embrace it, just be you.
Because we’re all flawed and therefore there will always be something to laugh about.
Unless, of course, you’re a unicorn.
Unicorns are perfect.
What’s the scariest thing you’ve done? What do you find funny?