Dear anyone without a living mother,
How are you?
Just kidding, I don’t care.
No, kidding again. I do. I do care.
I care because I know.
I know what it’s like to see everyone have plans with their mom’s on Mother’s Day. I know that this time of year can be incredibly lonely. I know you miss you mom. Maybe just a little, maybe a lot. It’s OK to be sad, it’s also OK not to be sad. You may be feeling a lot of feelings on this day and know that whatever those feeling may be, they’re validated. Don’t feel guilty if you don’t feel sad and don’t be ashamed to be angry. I’ve been without a living mother for nearly 20 years, many absent-mother’s days, and some years I miss my mom more than others.
From experience, this is the best advice I can give on how to cope on Mother’s Day:
Be good to yourself, be your own mother. Nurture and care for yourself. Pamper yourself, relax, let yourself just be and do whatever you need to do to to cradle your self. Don’t be afraid to reach out, don’t shy away from people trying to help. Don’t get too jealous of people that do get to brunch and spend the day with their mom. Mom’s are temporary.
So this mother’s day, all you fellow orphans out there: be your own mother and celebrate you.
I promise, it would make your mom proud.