Its not a new phenomenon that some “health” and “food” blogs are linked to eating disorders. But the thing is, there are lots of “recovery” blogs.
So this is a bit of a continuation of this post.
People hope they will find a virtual community online to help support their recovery efforts. While it’s great that you would want to recover, I have a few grievances I’d like to share about trying to blog your whole way through recovery:
You Might Be a Hypocrite: I’ll sometimes read a “recovery blog” and they’ll be snapping pictures of all this glorious food they’ll claim to eat. Followed by a long rant about how much they hate eating disorders, flaunting their “rest days” from exercise, and talking about how wonderful cake is. But often times, all these “look-at-me-I’m-so-recovered” examples hide a still-very-much emaciated person and tortured soul. Actions speak louder than words. I don’t need to see a picture of cake you ate, cause until chest bone stops protruding, I won’t believe you.
Compare and Contrast: As blog readers, we all compare. The horrible thing about “recovery” blogs is that if someone is struggling, comparing hinders progress.
Wow, she’s sooooo much more recovered than me, she got her peroid! Ugh, whatever. She’s fat now! I hope she bleeds on a white couch!
Because comparing leads to jealousy, jealousy leads to anger, and anger leads to the ”dark side” (take that yoda!). My point is, comparing can be detrimental to this whole recovery thing.
Whine and Dine: As Sophia explained, recovery can be hard. When I was in treatment, I was rather bitter and whiny. If recovery were easy, US Weekly would be out of a lot of material. Luckily, I had a therapist that soaked all my whines right up so no one had to put up with it.But if you use your blog as a whines-piration board, don’t expect people to start virtually comforting you. Get a therapist or a hairdresser.
Your Ego Will Be Shot: When you put anything on the interenet, its pretty much fair game for anyone to knock you down.
Eden, your blog is so lame! Do you think you’re funny?! Do you think you’ll get lots of readers if you write posts about farts and poop?! You bash all these “popular” health bloggers all the time, when I think you secretly want to be them, don’t you!?
Ok, you caught me. I DO secretly want to run 10 marathons a week and eat protein chia seed oatmeal shake. Who doesn’t? But seriously, if you are trying to recover, you’ll be emotionally vulnerable. Someone will read your blog, tell you that you’re grossly emaciated, and you’ll cry hoping that crying will burn off those few calories you ingested through your black coffee. (PS, why the fuck are you drinking black coffee if you need to gain weight!)
Dont get me wrong. Everyone has the right to blog about whatever shit they want. Their, kids, pets, bowel movements…I dont care. But its not a therapist and it can’t save you.
Your best bet? Eat cake, don’t tell me about it, and get a hairdresser (way cheaper than a therapist)
Do you think “recovery blogs” might actually do more harm than good? What are your peeves about them? Do you think there is a “healthy way” to blog about your recovery while you go through with it?
Wow, its been forever since I did a recipe, huh? Well, this is another recipe inspired by my trusty pal, Deb. Also inspired by my laziness and by me not trusting myself to a whole cake.
2 tbs cream cheese, softened to room temperature
1/2 cup greek yogurt or sour cream
1/4 teaspoon vanilla
2 tablespoons sugar/ sweetener of choice
2 tablespoons egg white, slightly beaten (egg whites in a carton work fine)
1/2 teaspoon lemon juice
1/2 teaspoon cornstarch (this is important! prevents liquid from forming)
For “mix ins”, you can add whatever you like, I swirled 1 tablespoon jam and topped it with cookie crumbs (it gets soggy if you but it on the bottom of the mug.
In a 1 cup or larger microwave proof mug, beat the cream cheese until light and fluffy with a small whisk. Mix in the sour cream, vanilla, sugar, egg, lemon juice and cornstarch. Whisk about 2 minutes until light. This is easier if you mix it in small bowl with a hand held electric mixer and then pour into the mug. Add any “mix-ins”.Microwave on medium for 2 about 2 min (it may take more or less, check it often). You want the center to just start to bubble, and then stop cooking. Take out of the microwave and let cool to room temperature and then refrigerate until fully chilled, about 1 1/2-2 hours. If any liquid has formed, carefully pour out. Sprinkle with graham cracker mixture and top with any topping of your choice.