3 Things To Make You Feel Better When You Feel Poopy

by Eden on October 13, 2012

I felt shitty this week.

I won’t list all my problems because its annoying, depressing, and none of your business.

Ever since my father passed away, I find more and more people asking me how I coped with losing both my parents before turning 25.

I won’t BS you, it was and IS fucking hard. It could be a lot worse and I’m thankful I have what I have but it sucks. Having a vicious history of a decade-long eating disorder, lots of people worry I’ll use it as some sort of coping mechanism. Either that, or alcohol, or pill, or lots of promiscuous sexy-time, or sniffing shit like high-lighters and glue.

But I can’t do any of that.

Because not having parents means I have to be my own parent. I need to start giving a damn about my well being.

So since we all have gone through those days where we feel like complete shit, I thought I’d offer my better ways to cope that I utilize:

 

1) Realize That Everyone Doesn’t Have a Clue

When I was a kid, I didn’t think I could navigate the adult world.

I still kinda don’t.

In high school, I was pressured by peers and teachers to be “successful” and focus on my future.  But one of the most valuable lessons I learned as an adult is that most adults are insecure about what they’re doing. Even people that seem like they’ve got it “together” have doubts. Doctors, lawyers, teachers, politicians, fishermen, Oprah…. I promise you.

Everyone is faking it or phoning it in to some degree and not matter what their diploma says, no one is an “expert”.

(especially if they preface anything they say with “trust me, I’m an expert”).

 

2) Stop complaining about things you can change

You know that friend that calls complaining that she hates Mondays (which is code for she hates her job) or that she hates her boyfriend or that she is so mad she wasted half her day pinning shit on pinterest?! Don’t you want to punch that friend or at least put do something like the picture below?

The bottom line, its useless to complain about stuff you have no control over.

Don’t like your job?

Quit and go after something better.

Boyfriend being a douche?

Break up with him already!

Wasting time on pinterest?! Go waste your time on the fancy!

My point is, this isn’t conducive to feeling less poopy, so just stop.

 

3) Laugh (even when you shouldn’t)

I think the only reason why I’ve gotten through the rough patch is because I’ve tried to find the humor of it all. Maybe that’s why most comedians come from formerly oppressed minority groups?

I’ve recently started to do stand up comedy and its really helped me enjoy my life a little more. I’m also realizing that a lot of comedy is based off life being shitty. Comedians simply find a way to laugh about it.

So bring on days I feel super shitty, I just think to myself:

“Bring it on, shit! I need some new material!”

 

What do you do when you feel especially crappy? Is there anything that people often tell you to do that doesn’t help?

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{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

Santiago October 13, 2012 at 12:38 am

My sympathies about your parents.

When I feel like shit I do things to make other people happy, like spoiling my little brother or buying my sister those shoes she wants but can’t afford. I figure I can live vicariously through their happiness, and even if I feel like crap at least somebody is having a good day. Things people tell you that don’t help: “you’ll feel better soon.” That’s just another way of saying “stop being such a little bitch, I have shit to do.”

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L October 13, 2012 at 5:59 am

Based on what you wrote for number 1, I think you’d really enjoy this book.

Trust Me, I’m Lying: Confessions of a Media Manipulator by Ryan Holiday
http://trustmeimlying.com/

I really enjoy your blog!

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Eden October 13, 2012 at 7:32 pm

cool, I’m excited to read it.

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Ellen October 13, 2012 at 9:59 am

I like your point about comedy. I have a bad habit of cracking jokes at inappropriate times. And recently my thought when something is not panning out is that it would be good fodder for my improv class.
So when/where do you do stand up? I would totally come check your shows out!

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Sana October 13, 2012 at 10:17 am

Your tweets make me giggle. That is all.

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Eden October 13, 2012 at 7:32 pm

And its enough.

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Chill October 13, 2012 at 11:14 am

I usually just lose myself in music or art when I feel unsatisfied with my state of being. I hate (and love) to say this, but, with the internet, there is an unlimited amount of ways you can boost your self-confidence to infinity. This sweet ass blog being one of them.

But, that’s Mickey Mouse stuff.

The real issues most people have, are deep seeded and can only be dealt with by accepting them, knowing everyone has them, know life is pain, embrace it and move the f*ck on. Ta da.

An the best part? Life is beautiful. You just have to find your beauty on your path. Be confident on that path. That shit is yours, you’re making it, you’re deciding if it’s paved, or muddy, or grid. Or whatever the hell else can be done to a path.

Buck up darlin’. Everyone has moments of doubt, despair, worry. Know this and I garuntee your attitude will change, and therefore greatly affect how you approach most situations, good or bad.

Or, y’know, have some ice cream and quit being such a baby. What do I know.
Over and out.

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Eden October 13, 2012 at 7:35 pm

I don’t have much of an ass to be sweet, but I appreciate the compliment. ;)

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Kasia O. October 13, 2012 at 11:30 pm

Does sourdough (bread) have its origin in Belgium? heck, way better to distract yourself by finding somethoing to research that you’re curious about or interested in than let yourself get too depressed.
Oh, and does it always have to be whole wheat?

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Eden October 13, 2012 at 11:48 pm

I’m actually doing research for work to distract me. Its a paying distraction.

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